Who Knew The Bachelor Could Be So Informative: The Important Lesson I Learned From Monday’s Episode

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If you know me, you know that The Bachelor is my guilty pleasure. So during my Monday night ritual of plopping on the sofa in front of the TV and having my “healthy” pizza while watching the new episode, a lot of questions came to mind as the drama between the two pageant girls, Hannah B and Caelynn, unfolded. Like half of Bachelor Nation I was wondering… hasn’t Hannah from Alabama seen this show before?!?! Doesn’t she know that ratting out or talking bad about another girl will get you absolutely nowhere?! But the biggest question that kept popping into my mind was: Why does she let Caelynn’s success/relationship with Colton dim her own? I know the Bachelor is a competition so that could be the reason, but I have a feeling this goes way deeper than that. And unfortunately, this competitive mentality doesn’t just stay within the Bachelor mansion walls. It doesn’t have to be a reality show… it happens everyday in real life.

So why do some of us feel inferior when other women or men are succeeding at something? Career, dating, body image?

I think it comes down to one thing… insecurities. Insecurities suck! Everyone has them. Some days they are a little less pronounced than others, but whether they are full fledged or subdued, I think we can all agree that we can’t let them take over our lives! I know from experience, that insecurities are the hardest things to overcome. It’s a constant work in progress. For me, I started to let go of my insecurities when I found myself exhausted. I was exhausted of feeling paralyzed by them, exhausted from the anxiety it caused, and most of all exhausted from all the energy it drained out of me.

My insecurities definitely haven’t just disappeared out of thin air. It’s a lot of hard work, but I do believe overcoming your insecurities starts with the choice of digging deep and realizing your own value and worth. Whether you accomplish this through positive affirmations, facing your fears, or mending/ending relationships, it’s amazing how freeing it is. One thing I’ve learned is that letting go of those things that weigh you down allow you to radiate a positive energy that will surely make you stand out. So for me, it started by realizing that your power lies in the fact that only you are you.

Nobody else can say that. How amazing is that!

Sure in the case of the Bachelor, Colton may have been vibing with Caelynn better, but it doesn’t mean that Hannah B isn’t awesome in her own way. Maybe it’s as simple as he’s not the right man for her. I know it’s a cliche, but everyone is special in their own way. More importantly though, sometimes we need to accept that maybe not everyone will see that and we need to be okay with it. Putting so much value into what others think of you is a waste of time and will constantly leave you disappointed. Instead we should shift our focus on finding what makes us the best versions of ourselves and setting our own unique goals. At the end of the day that’s what starts to build character and confidence. That’s what sets us apart. Encourage others to to do the same and build strong relationships by celebrating each others successes.

I promise I don’t watch the Bachelor and get this deep all the time lol! I’m usually laughing my butt off or admiring Colton 😉 It’s meant to be light and enjoyable to watch! But there was something about this episode that really got me thinking. I felt like what was being shown on TV should be talked about. It was a reminder that no person, show, social media, competition, or another woman/man should ever make you feel less than. It’s not fair to be measuring beauty, body, career, relationships, etc. to another person’s because the scales are completely different! You are completely different and once that’s realized…the insecurities that may haunt you, start losing their strength.

So I truly hope this post will inspire you to be kind to yourself and others, be the best you can be and let your inner light shine through.