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I’m dating myself! I know, I know… so dramatic…
Ok, let me be a little more specific here. When I say I’m dating myself, I mean it more in the sense of “I’m finally taking the time to fully focus on me.” I’m not doing this because I just got out of a relationship, or getting over a relationship… it actually has nothing to do with that. But it does have everything to do with breaking bad habits.
Like most girls, I loveeeee talking about love, my crushes, and dating life with friends… and even more, I loveeee dating period! I find it to be so much fun to have those butterflies, to learn about someone new, and to connect with a person. But my issue is I get caught up in the pressure of finding my person, right now, at this very moment!!!
A lot of us girls get caught up in the idea that we need to find our person… because we want that “perfect future”. But that bright future doesn’t come by settling, entertaining relationships for the attention, or turning a blind eye to certain red flags because we don’t want to end up alone. Let’s be honest with ourselves, that gets us nowhere! Trust me when I say, NOBODY should settle!!! Get rid of those paralyzing thoughts of ending up alone, and start filling your mind with positivity and the truth about your worth!
These last couple of months I’ve switched up my thinking and have let go of all that…. and I have to tell you… It’s been the most liberating and fulfilling feeling in the world! I mean, do you know how good it feels to wake up and realize that you have nothing to worry about. No trying to overlook differences, no worrying about getting ghosted, no more putting up with comments that rub you the wrong way, and no more overanalyzing situations or every text message (this one is the biggest relief). Having none of that to deal with…just simply waking up, making each day productive, and focusing on you is so satisfying and feels great! Isn’t that what your early 20s are for anyways?! I’ve realized that in order for my life to really move forward I needed to let go of ideas and thoughts that were messing with my personal growth. Knowing and truly understanding that happiness is within, instead of thinking happiness lies in the hands of another person, is powerful!
At the end of the day Cher said it best… “Like dessert. A man is absolutely not a necessity. I adore dessert. I love men. I think men are the coolest, but you don’t really need them to live”.
Even though I wouldn’t have used dessert as an analogy because dessert is ABSOLUTELY a necessity for me… I totally couldn’t agree more with her!
Look, I still love love and I still love men… I always will. And of course I hope and look forward to meeting the exact man God intended me to be with… but I have to be completely happy and fulfilled with who I am… and truly comfortable being single first!
So to all my single ladies out there… stop stressing and enjoy your life! What is meant to be yours will find it’s way to you, but most importantly, search within yourself for that happiness… you may be surprised that the most epic love story of your life, is the one where you fall in love with yourself.
I loved this post so much. It was definitely worth reading and what i needed to read. I’ve been going back and forth with what my heart wants and what I truly deserve and honestly this post just gave me life. You’re such a cutie! Thank you for this post ❤️